ARE CLOSE PLATONIC FRIENDSHIPS THE REAL KEY TO HAPPINESS? EXPERTS WEIGH IN
BY LAILA ELISE
We’ve all heard tropes like “happy wife, happy life,” but recent studies trumpet lasting friendships as one of the most significant indicators of sustained, lifelong happiness (even over a healthy marriage or strong family ties). According to research conducted by Dr. John T. Cacioppo, a psychologist and social relationships expert, the genuine bonds we form with others are vital for our overall well-being. Here, he offers advice on how to best cultivate and maintain deep, meaningful friendships with staying power.
Make an intentional effort to prioritize your friendships.
As adults, friendships can often take a backseat to the myriad daily demands of life; career and family needs tend to take priority, leaving little time or energy to invest in new or seasoned friendships. But research shows that strong social support networks contribute to greater emotional resilience and well being. According to a study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, people with close, active friendships are better equipped to cope with stress and adversity than their counterparts. To navigate life’s challenges together, Dr. Cacioppo recommends prioritizing open communication and empathy in your friendships. Be there to listen when your friends need to talk, offer practical help or encouragement, and show genuine concern for their well-being. Likewise, don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you’re facing difficulties of your own.
Stay connected.
As with any relationship, maintaining a healthy friendship requires ongoing effort, commitment, and communication. While social media may be a convenient way to stay up-to-date on each other’s lives, Dr. Cacioppo warns not to rely solely on digital interactions. He recommends making the effort to engage in meaningful conversations, whether via a prescheduled phone call or standing friend date. Carve out time to celebrate milestones and special occasions together, and show appreciation for your friends’ presence in your life by expressing gratitude, whether it’s through a heartfelt message, small gesture, or simply being present when they need support.
Celebrate Shared Memories
One of the most rewarding aspects of lasting friendships is the shared history and memories you create together. From spontaneous adventures and inside jokes to triumphs and challenges, these shared experiences serve as the bedrock for lifelong friendships and contribute to their richness and depth. Take time to reminisce and celebrate the moments you’ve experienced together over the years, as these memories serve as reminders of the special bond you share and strengthen your connection to each other.